Make sure you have the right goals
December 27th, 2020, I was sitting in the my parents friend's kitchen around 10:00, all the parents were talking, laughing, reminiscing, and enjoying life. They had wine bottles everywhere and homemade pizza in the oven. Probably 10 people all congregated in the kitchen and there was about 4 different conversations going on, each one seeming to better than the last. Mark, (one of my Dad's best friends and a good friend of mine) turns to me and says something along the lines of “take a look, this is everything you work for, this is the dream.” That line was and still is powerful to me, I think about it from time to time. Having life long friends that you consider family, that you can always count on for a good time, is essential to a happy life. Also being able to have kids who are successful and thriving in life, results in happiness. Sometimes I think about what he said when I am studying different regions of wine in my dorm room at 10pm while everyone else is getting ready to go out for a long night. Is what I am doing right now going to result to a happy life in the future?
Then comes the concept of marriage which I have been indifferent about for about a year or so. Originally I first believed that marriage was a sham after listening to Bill Maher on the JRE (probably not the most reputable source). But after maturing and taking a look at life from a different perspective I see that it is not that way at all. Marriage is a sacred pact between two people who feel they can comfortable spent every moment of their life together. That itself is special, hard to find, but worth finding. The goal in life should not be so much about buying an expensive house in West Dennis but instead being able to find fulfillment in having 2 kids, a loving wife, and a nice house in Dennisport (I want to be able to purchase in the cape as you can probably tell.) If I have the ability to find someone I truly love I will marry that person and look forward to those moments where you can sit back and not worry about anything else but family and friends, because that is what's important in life.
Back to where I am at in life. I am a sophomore in college, I do not have a girlfriend but I have a group of friends that I know will be with me for the rest of my life. At this point in life that is all I can ask for, the right girl will come around when the time is right, patience is important. I don't go out very often because right now I need to spend more time on myself and my friends respect that. I am happy in life and embracing each day, that is all I can ask for.